For some reason we expect our bodies to change, we expect to battle weight as we get older for instance. Maybe we notice our skin sagging or being a bit dryer, or possibly a little arthritis develops in our joints, but when it comes to hair, it should be the same today, as it was yesterday, and will be tomorrow. But no, that's not how biology works.There isn't really any aspect of our bodies that doesn't change in some way over time, and hair is no exception. I can use my very own son as a perfect example.
When my son William was born, he had pretty much no hair. This isn't really unusual with a newborn, and in his case he didn't grow much hair until he was around 2 years old. Luckily nobody really cares if male babies have hair or not; it's the girls we decide to stick a bow on to try to stop all the "aw isn't he cute" comments, even when we dress the darling little thing in a pink frilly dress. Go figure.
When his hair finally grew in it was soft, silky, and about as white as a blonde baby can be, it was the color we usually call towhead. His hair was also very straight. When he finally needed a haircut, I cut it in the adorable bowl cut that was the standard baby boy haircut through most of the early 90's. However, as he grew, his hair changed. Gradually over time it thickened, of course, but it also changed from universally loved pale blonde, to universally un-liked "dishwater" blonde. The other thing it did, somewhere around puberty, was to become curly. For the most part it was a very nice large loopy curl that would show up when it reached just past his chin The kind of hair you expect to see on the cover of a romance novel, or maybe a movie about scottish warriors. The only drawback, the unusual (seriously I've never seen it on another living soul) frizzy patch around his front hair line. It started at his forehead, and continued back about 1/4 inch or so.
Both William and I would struggle with this "problem" for many years. It would stand straight up, and no matter what I tried, it was just pure frizz. We tried straightening it, cutting it short, growing it long, using a smoothing iron, and even taking the somewhat unusual step of letting it transition into "locks". The locks (dreadlocks for those who aren't into the lingo of ethnic hair styles) worked really well. They looked stylish, and on him, they just seemed to work. We kept them neat and tidy by washing and setting them several times a week to keep the private catholic school he attended happy, and for a while we thought we had found the perfect solution. However, it turned out that the shop I had taken him to start the process had used the wrong technique, and with a little research I figured out what had been done wrong, so after a number of months we decided we needed to comb them out and start them the proper way. I spent a few hours with a metal comb gently prying loose all the locked hair, and when I finished that, I started in on the process for starting locks on non-ethnic hair. Somewhere slightly into the process William changed his mind, and decided that he just wanted to leave it combed out, long and curly. So he dealt with the frizz in the front by wearing hats pretty much non-stop for the next 5-10 years. The rule around our house was "no hats in the house, or restaurants," but one day at our favorite restaurant Tres Hermanas, I said, "Take your hat off William," after he took the hat off I immediately said, "put it back on, put it back on!". I never made him remove it in a public place again.
He's 24 now, and guess what? No more frizz at the front hairline. "But how can that be," you might ask? Well, that's the thing, hair changes. Just like anything else in this world, time works it's magic on us. As we age our hair can get straighter, it can get curlier, it can frizz more, less, you name it. It's a strange human trait in many ways. We cling to the ideas we develop in our 20's or 30's, and we just don't see the changes our bodies go through until there so drastic that we can't ignore them. However, when you are coloring, curling, straightening, or just blow drying your hair, it's really easy to ignore the changes. We continue on in ignorant bliss about what's occurring until one day a stylist says, "What do you mean you have flat hair, your hair is curly enough that you can let it dry naturally and look like you've got a perm. You just never noticed!"
So the next time you visit your stylist, talk to them about your hair. Ask questions about its texture, its color, the amount you have, or even had. Work with your stylist to develop the natural beauty and uniqueness that is your own special hair. You might be pleased to discover that the old assumptions you've been making for the past decade(s) isn't really true any longer. Maybe you actually have the hair of your dreams, but you've been treating it like the hair of your nightmares! After all, just because you used to hate your hair, doesn't mean you need to now.